Mixed-Orientation Marriage: Pathways to Success is a free online book for couples seeking a positive outcome in a mixed-orientation relationship.
A mixed-orientation marriage is one where partners do not share the same sexual orientation. One partner may be bisexual, gay, or lesbian while the other is heterosexual. Marriages and relationships often have other differences in sexual interests and sexual expression and these are more broadly known as mixed-sexuality marriages and relationships.
We fall in love with who we fall in love with
Straight spouses with newly discovered variations in sexual interests by their husbands or wives often wonder how they ended up married to a bisexual, gay, or lesbian partner.
Understanding identity
Bisexuality is a diverse and complex sexual orientation with many different ways one can be bisexual. Bisexuality is not just a self described identity or sexual orientation, there is also bisexual behavior and attractions. The Bisexual Identity
A resource for couples
If you are a straight spouse who has recently discovered your husband is bisexual or you are a bisexual husband who has recently come out to your wife perhaps something here can help you find the strategies needed to make your marriage a success.
Not for everyone
I wish to be very clear that there are all kinds of paths that mixed-orientation marriages can take. There is no doubt that mixed-orientation relationships can be complicated and many do not have the relationship dynamics necessary to make them work. When a path for mutual happiness by both the husband and wife cannot be found perhaps separation or divorce is the better solution. I have found that mixed-orientation relationship success is a process. That process requires time. Without going through the process and time it can be difficult to get the answers about the outcome ahead of time. When couples emerge happier in their mixed-orientation relationship couples often find going through the process and time spent was worth it. I struggle with what to tell couples who try to find happiness for years and find their mixed-orientation marriage is no better off than when they started feeling like they wasted their time.
Reading this book
This book can be read from beginning to end or explored by topic. Some couples use it as a workbook with their counselors.