Sometimes our marriages are wonderful in every way except the person we fall in love with and want to spend our life with does not share our same sexual orientation, ideas about gender identity or interests in sexual expression. Our book features observations and strategies to help overcome some of the challenges that are common in marriages when bisexual, gay or lesbian sexual attraction or other differences in sexual interests are discovered later in the relationship.
Mixed-Orientation Marriage : Pathways to Success is written with a refreshing, positive, and success oriented approach to these potentially complicated mixed-sexuality relationships.
We fall in love with who we fall in love with.
The introduction explores how couples arrive at a mixed-orientation marriage and the perspective behind this book. Read the introduction →
A resource for those who are new to the idea of mixed-orientation marriage success.
If you are a straight spouse who has recently discovered your husband is bisexual or you are a bisexual husband who has recently come out to your wife perhaps something here can help you find the strategies needed to make your marriage a success. Some of the relationship dynamics I write about will also be relevant to couples with a gay husband or bisexual wife or lesbian wife or one of the many other variations of mixed orientation marriage. Many couples are not even aware that a happy mixed-orientation marriage is a thing. I write more about that in the chapter Mixed-Orientation Marriage Success.
Reading this book
This book can be read from beginning to end or explored by topic. Some couples use it as a workbook with their counselors.
Like a buffet take what you can use and leave behind the rest. If that works for you please feel free to explore . I hope something I write here might make your journey a little kinder and a little easier.