Readings for Couples in a Mixed-Orientation Relationship Seeking Success.
Mixed-orientation marriages and relationships that feature couples with variations in their sexuality and sexual orientation can be wonderful successful relationships but many newly discovered mixed-orientation marriage couples are not aware that staying together is even an option. Mixed-orientation marriages can be complicated and many do not have the relationship dynamics necessary to make them work but some not only survive they become wonderful vibrant relationships.
Bisexual husbands need to be loved and love just as much as anyone else yet sometimes the person we fall in love with and want to spend our life with does not share our same sexual orientation, ideas about gender identity or interests in sexual expression. Mixed-Orientation Marriage Pathways to Successis a free online resource written specifically for couples who are themselves in a mixed orientation marriage and those who counsel them who are interested in a personal narrative about mixed orientation marriage issues and relationship dynamics written from a positive we can do this success perspective . It is written in a pull up a chair and chat a spell with a friend who cares style. I include observations and strategies to help overcome some of the challenges that are common in marriages where same sex attraction is discovered later in the relationship.
If you are a straight spouse who has recently discovered your husband is bisexual or you are a bisexual husband who has recently come out to your wife perhaps something here can help you find the strategies needed to make your marriage a success. While our site is most suited for mixed-orientation couples with a bisexual husband a lot of the mixed-orientation relationship dynamics I write about will also be relevant to couples with a gay husband or bisexual wife or lesbian wife or one of the many other variations of mixed orientation marriage. My goal is to provide a positive pathways to success example of how to make our mixed-orientation relationship work to offset all the negative information about mixed-orientation marriages that seems to permeate our society. I provide a voice saying mixed orientation marriages can be fabulous.
I wish to be very clear that there are all kinds of paths that mixed-orientation marriages can take. In some cases a path for mutual happiness by both the husband and wife can not be found and perhaps seperation or divorce is the best answer. My writings are written for the couple with both a husband and wife who feel they have made the right choice in a partner and where both the husband and wife are motivated to see if they can find a pathway to success.. I have found that mixed-orientation relationship success is a process and that process requires time and that without going through the process and time it can be difficult to get the answers about the outcome ahead of time. When couples emerge after a year or two or five both happier in their mixed-orientation relationship couples often find going through the process and time spent was worth it. I struggle with what to tell couples who try to find happiness for years and find their mixed-orientation marriage is no better off than when they started feeling like they wasted their time. I know of no way to tell which outcome is which. Of course it is true that many marriages dont know if they will find happiness. That said it is that paradox and conflicting outcomes that has me tempted at times to abandon the project of writings and stick with my prefered way of discussing MOMS which is one on one spoken conversations, . Just as I get ready to hit delete I get a letter from someone whose marriage has been saved by learning more about their sexualities and how their differing sexual orientations can work in their relationship. The world gets better one person and one couple at a time.
My current thinking is that since we have to go through the process anyway, that stay together or get divorced at least the couples can say they mindfully tried and looked at some options, I am only one voice saying here is what I think, here is what worked for me, Like a buffet take what you can use and leave behind the rest. I hope something I might say might make your journey a little kinder and a little easier.
Mixed-Orientation Marriage : Pathways to Success is a series of readings for couples in a mixed-orientation marriage with both a husband and wife who are seeking a positive outcome. My motivation is simple; I want a happier, kinder and gentler world for mixed-orientation marriage couples. To read for free online visit mixedorientation.com.