Mixed-Orientation Marriage Life After Covid

Spring is in the Air -

I have always loved this time of year. Spring is such a season of renewal, a fresh start, full of promise of things to come. It is a vivid reminder that each day is our own little mini spring, a chance to grow like the flowers and sing like the birds. This year we have the added joy and hope as the promise of what vaccinations will mean for us.

For many this past 12 months of COVID has indeed been like a long dark winter and so the promise of this spring is especially powerful. Mixed-orientation marriages became quite a bit more complicated with the COVID pandemic. Those of us who have been out for years found carefully crafted routines turned upside down. I love to travel to bi and gay men’s clothing optional resorts and all that has been on hold since February of 2020. My friends who came out at the beginning of the pandemic with a mix of fear and excitement over what was to come have found their lives on hold for the last year.

With the launch of vaccines and the hope of being able to gather with friends again many of us are wondering what the new normal of our mixed-orientation marriages will look like. Many of us have been reminded of our mortality and how precious life is. I treasure each day as a gift and certainly do not take my living life to the fullest for granted anymore.

Like many, my wife and I have spent a lot more time together over the last year. I love my wife and she is my best friend so it has been a treat to have this quality time over the last year and our love has grown stronger. The increased togetherness I hope also created a greater understanding of our needs with our wives as well as our needs to embrace and celebrate our bisexuality without the constraints of a pandemic lockdown. There is joy from celebrating our bisexuality that we can feed back into our marriages. When I come home from one of my trips there will be an extra skip in my step and the desire to make our marriage the best it can be.

The carefully crafted routines, the closer relationships over the last year have been wonderful but the other aspects of our lives need nurturing too. My hope is that with love, empathy and compassion we can find this best of all worlds, a loving marriage and self actualized rewarding lives as the bisexual, gay or lesbian we born as. The opportunities are there for a stronger better marriage as well as a more rewarding life for ourselves. I can’t wait.

Posted by Mark March 10,2021