Mixed-Orientation Marriage Support Groups and Forums

A listing of some of the online support groups that provide support to those whose lives are touched by Mixed Orientation Relationships.

These are peer lead support groups and the tone and helpfulness will vary by what  the members post  at any given point in time. There are times when these groups are very quiet and there are times when the nature of the posts are not helpful to our particular situations. There are other times when the posts seem to be exactly what we needed to hear. As I am fond of saying treat these like a buffet , take what looks good and leave behind the rest.

Making Mixed Orientation Marriages Work

This group has been created for those who are in mixed orientation marriages. Straight spouses who are married to gay, lesbian or bisexual spouses and also the married gay, lesbian and bisexual spouses themselves.

https://mmomw.groups.io/g/main

HUGS

HUGS is an acronym for Hope-Understanding-Growth-Support
HUGS_Couples is a list for couples of mixed sexual orientation who are working to keep their relationship strong and growing. It provides a positive environment where these couples can EXPRESS their concerns, SHARE their successes, and GIVE and RECEIVE support and encouragement. The requirements for joining are:
1. The couple is of mixed sexual orientation; that is, one or both partners is g/l/b.
2. The couple is interested in and working on maintaining their relationship.
3. The couple desires to receive and give support in a POSITIVE way with other MSO couples.
4. Since the list is for couples, both partners must join. https://groups.io/g/HUGS3

Alternate Path

This is a group for women seeking help with finding alternative solutions to divorcing their Bi/Gay husband. We want to provide positive discussions that will help the wives adjust to the news that their husband is gay/bi. Please use common sense when applying for membership to our group, if you want your identity kept private, use an alternate ID at the time you apply for membership. Use this same precaution when posting details to the group that you do not want to have known by your spouse or anyone else, as we cannot guarantee complete privacy.
https://groups.io/g/AlternatePath

HOW-Husbands Out to Their Wives

https://how-support.org/
Husbands Out to their Wives is support group for married Gay or Bisexual men who either have or intend to come out to their wives. (The requirement is that a commitment has been made to themselves that it is necessary for their personal well-being and to have absolute honesty with the wife.) The on-line support group uses an on-line social network style forum environment to provide shared experience and support.
In addition to the on-line support the New England members also meet for dinners and an annual barbecue hike at locations around Southern New England. For information on how to join visit their website at https://how-support.org/

GAMMA

GAMMA is a peer support group for men who are gay, bisexual, questioning or don't identify themselves as any of the above, but who are attracted to men; and who are, or who were, married or otherwise involved with a woman. ​ We are a self-help group. Everything we do is done by volunteers who originally came to the group for support and have stayed on to help out and perhaps continue to receive support. GAMMA has been meeting regularly since 1978.

GAMMA Support

Facebook Groups

Facebook has become a valuable resource for support . As most of the Facebook groups are either private or secret groups the best way to find them is through either searching directly through Facebook or as a resource mentioned in one of the above support resources. My current impression is the Facebook groups seem to be more positive and   success oriented   than some of the older email based groups.